I am helping to raise my infant granddaughter. I spend my days helping her with her developmental skills, like sitting (check); standing (with assistance, check) and scooting (just started). She is comely, and that means everything to her parents. I am focused on her inner being, though, and I see a very keen intelligence. I also see her bullshit meter, and how it already filters how she reacts to people. I fully intend to stoke her intellect and encourage that B/S meter.
Good article, necessary article, the perfect reminder, Elizabeth! There are advantages to be 88 years old, and look it. Nobody looks at the "package", my looks, and stay there. People either move on to other subjects or stop to take a look at what I have to say. ---
Another advantage came for me when I late in life completely identified as soul, a move which included everyone else as well. Which of course means that when I encounter people, souls, what interests me is who they are at the deeper levels – an unending and fascinating journey to find out.
I have not met you, but how you look can be covered in a glance. Who you ARE, cannot. ---
The wonder begins when one can find out who a person is, what makes them tic, what they think about life, what their challenges are, etc. To only surf the surfaces I think leads to boredom. To dive a little deeper is a challenge with never-ending surprises and rewards in tow. ---
What I have in mind is a reorientation which might ultimately produce people who don't look at you as if you were a pretty trinket to acquire. Love, Maria
We all deserve to be seen for who we are, not only for what others notice first. Character, kindness, and courage are the qualities that remain long after appearance changes. 🌿
Boy you said it. If calling me pretty is all somebody's got to say, I can't help thinking that they're fooled by appearance and don't see human worth. If they don't wanna be human together, I'd rather they not play games and just club me over the head, drag me back to their cave, and get it over with already. But, maybe I'm too sensitive, too.
I really love the power of this writing and the point of it. It packs a very satisfying punch. It's clear and upsetting. Thank you for giving this a voice. I respect your intelligence and passion, as a person and a writer.
Thank you for this article. It’s going to take work to train ourselves out of assigning women’s primary value based on beauty “standards”. Reminders like this will help.
I am helping to raise my infant granddaughter. I spend my days helping her with her developmental skills, like sitting (check); standing (with assistance, check) and scooting (just started). She is comely, and that means everything to her parents. I am focused on her inner being, though, and I see a very keen intelligence. I also see her bullshit meter, and how it already filters how she reacts to people. I fully intend to stoke her intellect and encourage that B/S meter.
Good article, necessary article, the perfect reminder, Elizabeth! There are advantages to be 88 years old, and look it. Nobody looks at the "package", my looks, and stay there. People either move on to other subjects or stop to take a look at what I have to say. ---
Another advantage came for me when I late in life completely identified as soul, a move which included everyone else as well. Which of course means that when I encounter people, souls, what interests me is who they are at the deeper levels – an unending and fascinating journey to find out.
I have not met you, but how you look can be covered in a glance. Who you ARE, cannot. ---
The wonder begins when one can find out who a person is, what makes them tic, what they think about life, what their challenges are, etc. To only surf the surfaces I think leads to boredom. To dive a little deeper is a challenge with never-ending surprises and rewards in tow. ---
What I have in mind is a reorientation which might ultimately produce people who don't look at you as if you were a pretty trinket to acquire. Love, Maria
We all deserve to be seen for who we are, not only for what others notice first. Character, kindness, and courage are the qualities that remain long after appearance changes. 🌿
Boy you said it. If calling me pretty is all somebody's got to say, I can't help thinking that they're fooled by appearance and don't see human worth. If they don't wanna be human together, I'd rather they not play games and just club me over the head, drag me back to their cave, and get it over with already. But, maybe I'm too sensitive, too.
I get it. I was once pretty. It never occurred to me that it was a benefit until I received my Cloak of Invisibility, which is to say menopause.
I really love the power of this writing and the point of it. It packs a very satisfying punch. It's clear and upsetting. Thank you for giving this a voice. I respect your intelligence and passion, as a person and a writer.
Thank you for this article. It’s going to take work to train ourselves out of assigning women’s primary value based on beauty “standards”. Reminders like this will help.
I recoil when someone says “You look good.”
it is what it is